About Mike Fidler & Associates Inc.

Mike Fidler and Associates is a counselling office made up of like minded professionals who care about offering proven tools to their clients.

 

How we can help.

We can bring you a new way of seeing your life and help you renew your sense of balance. Your emotional well-being is an important part of your life that needs to be looked after and protected.  That’s why we offer confidential services for:

Individuals                 Couples                 Families                 Groups

 

Our professional counselling provides confidential help with a complete range of mental health issues.

 

Relationship Issues

Being stuck in constant conflict with a partner, family member or colleague can leave you frustrated and depleted. The cumulative wear and tear can eventually take its toll on the relationship. We provide caring, non-judgmental counselling that safeguards your personal dignity, addresses and corrects the root of the problem and empowers you to build conflict-free relationships of which you can feel proud.

With divorce rates at 50%, we understand that the human family is in crisis and couples face the most severe challenges to relationship stability ever. Research shows that on average, couples wait six years from the first signs of problems before they seek help. We believe that through therapeutic and educational services we can help people sooner, repair troubled families, and help all couples
and families remain strong and healthy. That is why it is our mission to reach out to families in order to help create and maintain greater love and health in relationships. We are committed to an ongoing program of research that increases the understanding of relationships and adds to the development of interventions that have been carefully evaluated. We employ the methods of Dr John Gottman and of Dr Susan Johnson.
 

Gottman Therapy - Just as Masters and Johnson were pioneers in the study of human sexuality, so Dr. John Gottman has revolutionized the study of marriage. For three decades, John Gottman has conducted research on all facets of married life, including parenting issues.  His research has led to a proven approach that strengthens happy marriages and committed relationships and supports and repairs troubled ones.
We have the only Gottman Certification in Eastern Canada making us uniquely qualified to use these methods as part of our couples therapy.
 
Dr. Susan Johnson - Emotionally Focused Therapy. The theory of EFT is predicated on a theory of relatedness called attachment theory. Developed fifty years ago by John Bowlby, who studied the psychological adjustment of babies and children who were orphaned during the Second World War, Bowlby concluded that all humans possess an innate yearning for trust and security, or attachment. Children have needs for attachment with at least one parent, and adults have these needs with a romantic partner. According to attachment theory, then, every individual has a legitimate yearning for a secure attachment to a significant partner. A secure attachment is understood as a close, trusting relationship in which each person experiences fulfillment of legitimate dependency needs for contact/comfort, and acceptance/safety. In a secure attachment, both people experience the relationship as a safe haven, a source of security and nurture rather than distress.

It follows from attachment theory, that when partners are in conflict, they no longer experience a secure attachment to their partner. Finally, EFT theory maintains that the negative fight cycle is partners misguided but well-intentioned attempt to establish a secure attachment. The goal of EFT is to help distressed couples reestablish a secure attachment, in which their dependency needs for contact/comfort, and acceptance/safety are met.

Dealing With Emotions

Feeling stressed, anxious, irritable or down for an extended period of time can become a heavy burden. This state, left unattended, can lead to unwanted results such as trouble sleeping, low energy,  decreased motivation, and  problems at work and at home. We help you uncover the source of your emotional pain and show you how to use it to turn your situation around. Our framework enables you to get more control over all parts of your life and achieve the results you desire.

 

Life Transition

Significant loss, such as separation or divorce, job termination, financial setbacks or the passing of a loved one, marks a time of transition in life. When this happens, you may experience a range of emotions, such as sadness, anger and uncertainty about what the future will bring. The actuality of the loss does not necessarily mean that the attachment vanishes. Taking time to grieve and make personal meaning of the loss can be an important part of the healing process. We can support you through this period and help you adjust to your new circumstances.

 

Mediation

Mediation is a process that we use to help two or more parties in conflict find common interests and develop mutually acceptable agreements or solutions. While separation agreements are most common, we can mediate any personal, relationship or business disagreement. This alternative is faster and less expensive than protracted court litigation and can often be handled in a more non-confrontational manner.

 

Children

Mediation is a process that we use to help two or more parties in conflict find common interests and develop mutually acceptable agreements or solutions. While separation agreements are most common, we can mediate any personal, relationship or business disagreement. This alternative is faster and less expensive than protracted court litigation and can often be handled in a more non-confrontational manner.

 

Marriage and Couples

With divorce rates at 50%, we understand that the human family is in crisis and couples face the most severe challenges to relationship stability ever. Research shows that on average, couples wait six years from the first signs of problems before they seek help. We believe that through therapeutic and educational services we can help people sooner, repair troubled families, and help all couples and families remain strong and healthy. That is why it is our mission to reach out to families in order to help create and maintain reater love and health in relationships. We are committed to an ongoing program of research that increases the understanding of relationships and adds to the development of interventions that have been carefully evaluated. Dr. John Gottman, has learned what really makes marriages work by studying and following over 3,000 couples in three decades of research.  We are trained in his methods and use them with great success in our couples counselling.
 

Other Clinical Services

• Adolescent and Child Behavior
• Drug and Alcohol Assessment & Treatment
• Individual, Family and Marriage counselling
• Financial Assessment & Planning Workplace Health

 

Phone: 519-428-0776

Toll Free: 1-800-560-5577

Fax:  519-426-0852